This series of events made me think of what I think about marriage. And after all this, I think that weddings are less more about celebrating one's love, but more like a party for the families.
So, am I against marriages? Technically, no. I don't mind getting married, but only if getting married will provide me more benefits legally, such as when it comes to income tax. I have come to the conclusion that two people do not need permission from a state, or a church, or any other social entity to love one another. Hence, my take on marriage is that it is a pragmatic move: I will only get married if it is more beneficial for both parties to do so.
Second, I am not sure I would like a wedding either. Based on what I have seen, a wedding is less for the couple, but more for the family. It's a party for the family. There are weird things that happen, like synchronized dancing, toasts, embarrassing anecdotes, and all that jazz. If I would get married, I think I am fine with a very low-key, small, visit to the judge kind of thing. Private, quiet, and shielded.
The thing is, weddings are steeped in tradition. And to some degree, the bride and groom are just puppets for the rest of the guests. They have to do this set of things that are expected of them, and the audience watches. But what's the point? I don't think I am comfortable with that.
So yeah, I am happy for both of my friends who got married, but I don't think that is my style.